Thursday, November 25, 2010

This happened almost a year back when my friend was newly married. Since they stayed nearby, I used to visit her often.


After a few of such visits I noticed that their house was notably silent always and her husband was conspicuously absent all the time. I once brought up the courage to ask her whether everything was fine in her married life. The ‘just married’ tag was still hanging , I mean the mehendi in her hands had not faded.

She told me everything was fine in a way which I felt was to provoke me to cajole her into revealing something. But I let it go. As days passed and it became almost 6 months after her marriage, she decided to open up to me. Hers was an arranged marriage , which was ‘arranged’ and done within 2 months of her meeting her present husband. They never got time to know each other, their parents were sure that since their horoscope matched, both of them will be very happy with each other. But things were different. She said to me, she was not able to mentally share her space with a stranger who has suddenly become her better-half. She said she wasn’t feeling secure with him (they had relocated to Trivandrum away from her parents and relatives due to his job). I asked what security she meant, was it financially?

She explained she never had felt insecure when she was with her father, and she believed that nothing can hurt her if her father was around, but with her husband, she always felt that she should be vigil, like while she was in their car with him on the wheels,, she was scared..

This conversation always lingered on my mind because even I believed that nothing can hurt me when I am with my father.

I am so proud of my father, and I feel extremely happy when somebody says, I am a Xerox of my father. There may be many shortcomings to him, but from where I see, he is perfect.

My grandma used to say, my father always wanted a son, but he got two daughters. And he did bring us up like his sons with all of that freedom and the spirit.I remember one day he telling to my mom’s sister, holding our hands, that we were his only assets.

Anything I wish, he is always ready to fulfill it. If the wish isn’t reasonable, 2 days of brooding and not talking to him would get him to do it for me. Eventhough I make sure that consciously I don’t do anything to disappoint him, somethings just happen.But I make sure that I apologise and make up for it.

As the eldest child of the house, he has always given me that importance, whether its my opinion on which car to buy next or which color shirt suits him the most. And I am definetly honored by that.

My daddy the bestest and the strongest..

9 comments:

Rajeesh said...

this is too gud a way to write..i mean u started with smthing and i was thinkin like y d hell dis gal writes so often abt marriages..but voila! u made the twist at the rite point and made it a gr8 read.keep writing :)

by the way, dads rock!! they always did.but it's at this age, at this point of life u get a paradigm shift and realise wat he mean to us and wat we were to him..and how short a time we hv to show to them that they r truly gr8 :|

soorya said...

thank u so much

sunshine said...

i dont know why but i am so curious to know abt your friend's problem :)

I do crack jokes when i am touched :( this is a beautiful piece of writing :)

soorya said...

thanks da, i wil call u soon dear ..

Shaiju R Sensible as usual said...

Yes. females always need to feel secure; to feel secure the way they wish. if they feel secure with a partner who care for her personal space also, then usually, the female patner wish herself to be dominated by the male partner. universal law. dont take it in the wrong sense. i hope so.

nice post.

looking for next

Shaiju R Sensible as usual said...

i mean "universal truth" :)

Shebin said...

Checked out your blog after a friend sent me the link.
Hope u don't mind the part that I'm kinda uninvited.
He'd suggested I check the disclaimer coz he found it interesting.
Found it as he claimed, the last line especially, was quite funny....
Couldn't help reading the rest of the blog..
Read all your posts... Found all of them quite good...
Kinda encouraged me to restart my written blog...
Keep Posting......

sruthy said...

boy(pun intended)....must say your quality shooting up..
beautiful.....and had to read it the day i had a fight with achan, (ofcourse as always, half hour long....)
lve him ....
and you keep up the good work..:)

murali.mr said...

Read ur post. Nice. Keep on writing.The moon is always shining,beautiful but at a distance.Real life is full of thorns.
Loving Achan.